Divorce is very stressful for anyone—add in a pandemic:  stress increases immensely.

We tend to overlook signs of stress in children. And often because they are easy to miss.

For years we were taught that children were feeling depressed or anxious during their parent’s separation, because they were confused or sad due to their family no longer living in the same house.

That is very true. However, several medical professionals today explain that conflict between parents is the number one reason that causes anxiety during a divorce or unhappy marriage. In reality, divorce can often be best option for a child’s wellbeing.

What are some signs of anxiety, and how do we make sure we are looking out for them?

• Change of appetite is probably the number one overlooked sign of anxiety in a child. A child eating more than usual, or not eating at all is usually emotional eating. Remember the worst thing any caregiver can do is deprive food or label foods as unhealthy or healthy
   
• Lack of sleep: children who are restless and anxious at bedtime maybe struggling with stress. Try your best to be very positive before bedtime. Read a story or practice meditation.
   
• Acting out: When children hit, talk back or act angry to their loved ones, it’s usually because they are in pain. When setting boundaries, make sure their feelings are being validated. There is a fine line between fearing your parent and respecting them.

What are some other ways to help with a child’s anxiety when their parents decide on

separation? We have spoken to some medical professionals that have provided us with detailed ways to help your children’s stress level, which we will list on our next post.

Remember, we are not therapist’s—but one thing we are entirely sure of: it’s important to speak highly of the other parent. In the past we have found it to be very damaging when a parent is speaking ill of the other––no matter how angry you are at your child’s parent, say only positive things about them.

Now, how to make sure it is not impossible to do that? Hire attorneys who are experienced in divorce and custody. At Davis and Davis we have been helping families since 1976 and we are here to help you.